How well do you know the parents of the kids your children play with?
Stella is in a large public school and only knows two kids in her class from last year. And I only know one of the sets of parents. This can be a con to going to a large public school. We see it as a pro in that Stella gets to constantly meet new people and the diversity of those people is great.
However, I’m approaching that dreaded stage in life where play dates and slumber parties and sleepovers will soon be the norm. Up until this point, I’ve usually crafted the play dates as excuses to get together with my own friends. And I’m just counting down the days until Stella asks or gets asked to get together with a child I don’t know. Whether he/she is from school, soccer, etc.
I know at some point, I’ll just have to let go and have a little faith. But after reading The Kindness of Strangers, I’ve got to say I’m a bit freaked out. Send my kid over to a strangers house? Yikes. What are their rules? How lenient are they about x, y, and/or z topics? Exactly what goes on behind closed doors?
How do you deal with parents you don’t know?
I know a lot of you have older children than Stella and have already dealt with this. Some more often than others. So, help those of us that are embarking on this scary journey. We need your wisdom!
What do you do when your child is invited over to a family’s house that you are unfamiliar with?
Do you insist on meeting the parents first in another social setting?
Do you ask a list of specific questions?
About what topics? (Guns? Movie ratings? Video Games? Screen time?)
What else am I missing??