I’ve been doing even more and more research on “bedtime battles” and “bedtime tantrums”. Talking to experts, reading materials, etc. The suggestions are not brain surgeon type of materials/advice. We are following everything almost to the exact wording. There are a couple of slight tweaks I’ll be trying tonight. (I’ll discuss all of that later.)
However, I’ve yet to find ANY information that includes the apparently mind-boggling concept that you might have OTHER sleeping children in the house during this time period.
So that’s my biggest issue…while I let Charlotte cry it out, get angry, yell and scream; while I ignore her so that there aren’t any “giving in” situations; while I tune her out when she throws things into the hall and slams her bedroom door repeatedly…what the heck am I supposed to do with the other two kids that are trying to sleep? And one of them is supposed to share her room?
“Don’t change the environment” – um, oops, we move Stella to the guest room when it gets really bad
“Don’t remove the child” – um, oops, we take Charlotte down to the basement to quiet her at times
This is the area that I struggle with…all of the sleeping books…for people with ONE kid.
So I’m going to write more about this, but need your help. Are we the only ones with this issue? What do you do when one of your kids won’t go to bed, but the others are similar in age (can’t let my 18-month-old stay up until Charlotte decides to quiet down…it’s not like he’s 8) and trying to sleep?
What has worked for you? Or have you caved? Do you give in and sleep with the child? Are you losing the battle in order to SLEEP (I totally understand why)? Am I silly to attempt to “win” it??
PLEASE comment here, comment on the FB page (wow, lots of comments yesterday!), or private message me. I want to anonymously add others’ input. Because there are a lot of mommas out there with more than one kid.
And crying it out…affects everyone under the roof!
PS. If you ever tried to discuss this with me in the past and I wasn’t very responsive…I just didn’t get it. Stella was ALWAYS a great sleeper and even Charlotte has had her cycles, but never been this bad. Now it’s almost every night and longer than ever. Often tied to the full moon…seriously was waiting for her head to start spinning around last night. That bad. Can’t find anything else different. No change in routine, etc.